We’ve all heard the phrase “save the drama for your mama” but it seems like people save the drama for their workplaces. If there’s one thing that’s constant in the workplace is drama and today’s guest, Alex Dorr, has the research to back it. At Reality Based Leadership, they have found the average employee spends 2½ hours a day in drama, which is a form of mental and emotional waste in the workplace.
But Alex knows it doesn’t have to be this way. He envisions a world where work is effortless, and teams are drama-free. Standing side-by-side since 2015 with NY Times Bestselling author and thought leader Cy Wakeman, Alex collaborates with organizations and leaders globally to help them ditch the drama from the workplace, hardwire accountability in their teams and turn excuses into results.
In this interview, Alex defines Reality Based Leadership and the three ways drama seeps into organizations. He tells us what to do with the drama queens and kings in our organization, how ego plays a role in the drama and leaves us with a tangible tip.
Alex gives us a process (SBAR) to help steer people away from drama and he offers questions to ask to shut down the drama. This jam-packed interview offers a ton of value. In fact, before I published this interview, I shared it with a leader at a drama filled office. If you’ve ever been around drama at work (and who hasn’t?), this interview will help you shut it down.
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Interview highlights (with timestamps):
- [6:45] Alex explains Reality Based Leadership (RBL).
- [11:40] The three ways drama gets into an environment or system.
- [12:55] How an open-door policy leads to drama.
- [15:17] An example of a good mental process.
- [22:28] How to flip from low self into high self through self-reflection.
- [34:35] What do you do with those that love drama?
- [39:27] The common belief that people don’t want to change.
- [48:30] The role ego plays in drama.
- [56:45] Alex’s tangible tip
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Alex envisions a world where work is effortless, and teams are drama-free.
Standing side-by-side since 2015 with NY Times Bestselling author and thought leader Cy Wakeman, Alex collaborates with organizations and leaders globally to help them ditch the drama from the workplace, hardwire accountability in their teams and turn excuses into results.
Everything that Alex does is designed to help people understand that success and happiness is their natural state as a human being – once the drama is gone. With this core belief, Alex’s passion is revealing to those he works with that once people carve away drama from their lives – the same job they found themselves upset with today, becomes the job they look forward to and love tomorrow.
As a keynote speaker and trainer, he helps organizations exchange the endless argument for a DIFFERENT workplace reality for a shifted perspective that enables them to start achieving more success and fulfillment in their CURRENT workplace reality.
In addition to sharing the Reality-Based philosophy from the stage, Alex is also a quintessential part of Cy Wakeman’s content creation and media team spreading the ditch the drama message online. Over the last three years, his expertise, insights and execution have helped to balloon her online community of raving fans from 15,000 to 150,000 followers across platforms.
As the host of The Carvery Podcast with Alex Dorr (available on Apple iOS, Google Play and Simplecast), he shares his journey, stories, and insights as a Reality-Based speaker and practicing drama defuser to help others carve away their own drama and start calling those they lead to greatness.
Although Alex stands in at 6’6” tall and is commonly told at events, “you look a lot taller up close,” he prides himself on being down to earth or better yet, grounded in reality.
An advocate for mental minimalism and former professional basketball player, Alex holds a MSc International Business from the University of Derby (England) and his client list includes Carnival Cruise Lines, Ely Lilly, Emory Healthcare, Methodist Healthcare (San Antonio), Nationwide, Kohler, US Department of Commerce, Allina Health, Delaware North, AMC Theatres, Our Lady of the Lake Medical Center, the University of Oregon, Baton Rouge General Medical Center, CH Robinson, Intact Insurance, National Association of Credit Management, Clarkson College and Credit Institute of Canada among others